As I have explored emptying the nest and filling the life, I have done some life coaching exercises, both individually and in a group setting.
Rediscovering ourselves after a long period of mothering is an exciting process! It is an opportunity for us to do something we are unaccustomed to – spending time thinking about ourselves! After spending a lifetime in service to our family, time gives way to a season of self-exploration.
One exercise not for the faint of heart is to ask your loved ones to give a few words that describe you.
I did it via text. I asked each of my kids, a few siblings and a few friends to give me words that they felt described me.
Some of the response made my heart sing. There is great joy in hearing your adult child say you are loving and passionate and brave.
A couple of the responses were thought-provoking.
Yes, indeed, I am stubborn. While that can be a negative trait, it can also manifest as a determination to see things through, or to stick with something to finish it. Yes I am stubborn, but I’m also committed! (Or maybe I should BE committed….)
Another thought-provoking word was opinionated. Indeed I am. I have opinions and deeply held beliefs. I don’t, however, impose them on others, but I’ll give you a run for your money if you want to have a good discussion.
I’m glad I did this exercise. If you ever wonder what people think about you, give it a try.