Your baby bird has flown from the nest and you’re getting used to living alone. While you may not hear them around the house anymore, you can still nurture your child and remind them that you love them. With these ways to keep in touch with your kid at college, the transition will be easier for both of you.
Give Them Space
It may sound counterintuitive, but take a step back. Let your child dictate some of the rules of communication. They’re about to be very busy! If you love to talk on the phone, arrange a time that works for both of your schedules. Use social media with a light touch and resist the urge to comment on their every post. They may prefer that you text them privately—you can even start a family group chat to share updates and encouragement. Follow their lead regarding communication while making sure you connect often.
Be a Pen Pal
Text and social media are great ways to catch up quickly, but college students also love receiving mail—especially if it’s a surprise! Send them handwritten letters and cards every so often. A good care package will also lift their spirits. Fill it with bath bombs, stuffed animals, chocolate treats, and other items that will make them feel cherished. Add personal touches wherever you can, and send them a little something whenever they’re feeling homesick or overwhelmed.
Schedule Video Calls
Talk face-to-face via FaceTime or Zoom every so often. Make it a family affair! Your child will love to see your face, especially when you can’t come visit and texting isn’t enough. Watch your kid grow into an adult through the safety of a screen and encourage other family members to join the video call. Family reunions are easier than ever as technology advances.
Visit in Person
Many colleges and universities have parents’ weekends in the fall. Take advantage of those opportunities to see them in person, and continue to visit even after the fall semester is over. Ask them when they’d most like you to come for a weekend and treat them to dinner when you do. College is a tough transition time for students, and they’ll appreciate your continued support as they figure out adulthood.
As you adjust to life in an empty nest, help your child adjust to adult life by staying in contact while they’re away. Go through that transition together with these ways to keep in touch with your kid at college, and support them even when you can’t see them in person.