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Strategies to Help You Get Through Difficult Times

December 10, 2020 By Christine Field

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Are you having a tough year? I hear ya.

Life isn’t always easy. We’ve all faced some tough times. However, the way you handle difficult situations can make a big difference.

Many of us make life even more difficult by handling our challenges poorly. This creates additional issues that require time and energy to rectify. How you handle trying times says a lot about you. Others notice. Will you let these times bring out the worst in you or the best in you?

Make it easier on yourself and get through difficult times wisely with these easy strategies:

1. Remember that you have more options than you realize. Part of what makes challenging times challenging is the belief that you have no options. Feeling powerless isn’t pleasant. Remind yourself that you still have choices. How you choose to handle the trying situation is one of those choices.

2. Pay attention to all of the things that are still good in your life. You may have lost your job, but you still have your health and your family. Maybe you’re getting divorced, but you still have your friends, job, health, and your children.

• What was the best thing that happened to you last year? Who is most important to you? Make a list of at least 20 positive things in your life and then notice how much better you feel. This will help you to relax and cope.

• If you focus on the one thing that isn’t working, you’ll only succeed in making yourself more miserable.

3. Look for solutions. Focusing on your difficulty is natural, but ineffective. In fact, it only saps your resources. Decide that you’re going to find a viable solution. It doesn’t have to be the perfect solution. Just a decent solution. Give yourself the time you need to brainstorm, but avoid taking longer than necessary.

4. Begin implementing your solution. For example, if you’ve lost your job, your solution might include several steps:

• Update resume.

• Create accounts and profiles on five job boards, such as LinkedIn and Monster.com.

• Contact at least five headhunters in my field of employment.

• Contact everyone I know and let them know that I’m looking for a job.

• Update my social media accounts to show that I’m looking for work.

If you’re worried about the state of your finances due to job loss, try not to bury your head and ignore the trouble. If bankruptcy seems like it might have to happen, there are steps you can take to make sure you don’t lose everything. Look into how to stop foreclosure, for example, if you think you might be at risk of losing your home. If you’re prepared, you will feel calmer and more in control.

5. Keep a smile on your face. You don’t feel like smiling, but do it anyway. It will make you feel better and let others know that you’re okay. If you want to handle a challenging time gracefully, smiling is mandatory.

6. Continue to take care of others in your life. Your family and friends still need you. You may have to reduce your care and attention a little, but don’t crawl into yourself and ignore everyone else in the world. You’ll feel better about yourself if you’re still taking care of the important people in your life.

7. Release your anxiety. You can feel your anxiety in your body. It’s located in a specific location, most often your stomach or chest. Imagine opening up a door in that location and letting it all out. Continue releasing it until it’s all gone.

8. Thank everyone when the crisis is solved. Let everyone know that you appreciate their love and support. You’ll be even more likely to get the same support the next time something goes wrong.

It’s not a matter of whether or not you’ll face difficult times. It’s only a matter of when. Since challenging times are inevitable, why not deal with them effectively and gracefully? It will say a lot about your character, others will respect you, and you’ll come out on the other side quicker and less bruised.

Filed Under: Encouragement, Inspiration, Purpose and Passion, Self-care Tagged With: difficult times, strategies for difficult times

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  1. Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond

    May 23, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    Hello Christine and welcome to Midlife Share the Love Party. Your tips are useful and I particularly like the point about keeping a smile on your face. If I feel like I’m struggling I find going for a walk or run helps to clear my mind. Thanks for sharing your strategies with us and have a beautiful day. See you at next week’s #MLSTL

  2. Victoria

    May 23, 2018 at 10:24 pm

    Good thoughts but none really apply to my difficult time. My husband was diagnosed with cancer in Feb and future is very much in question. We live by two week periods in between chemo treatments. I am able to smile most of the time.

    • Christine Field

      May 25, 2018 at 2:24 pm

      I’ve been there – the uncertainty of the cancer walk.
      Sending prayers and positive energy your way.

  3. Donna McNicol

    May 23, 2018 at 11:21 pm

    EXCELLENT tips!!! Going to share on Facebook….too many people seem to be concentrating on the negatives in their lives. #MLSTL visitor

  4. Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au

    May 23, 2018 at 11:22 pm

    You are so right about challenging times and difficult times being a part of life. We all hope to escape them, but we all face them to some degree. My favourite saying is “this too shall pass” – everything has a season and good times come and go – and so do bad times. I also like to try to remind myself that the challenges are what grow my character – although I often think it would be nice to stay shallow and avoid tough times!

    Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM xx
    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au

    • Christine Field

      May 25, 2018 at 2:23 pm

      Stay shallow? Never! Imagine all you’d miss!

  5. shelley

    May 25, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    I think what hits home for me is the advice to focus on the options. It seems when we’re in the middle of “whatever” our world and options feel limited – or non-existent. That only contributes to our desperation and feelings of hopelessness. I used to have a colleague who’d say “We’re not stuck” and most of the time that’s a true statement.

    Visiting from #MLSTL and sharing on my Facebook page.

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