I was a Christian homeschooling mom. Never did I imagine I would become the mother of a drug addict.
None of us are prepared for parenting. The delicate dance of parenting an adult child can turn into a nightmare when dealing with drug addiction.
August 31 is International Overdose Awareness Day, a day to advocate for the survivors of a loved one’s overdose and to support and help those with addictions.
Addictions are a serious challenge. Many of us deal with an addiction of some sort each day – whether it’s our own addiction or that of a loved one.
When a loved one is suffering from an addiction, it can greatly affect you as well. Naturally, you don’t like to watch them suffer and you’re searching for ways to help.
The truth is that loved ones are usually best equipped to help because they’re loving and trustworthy.
Here is a list of tips to keep in mind when helping someone with addictions:
- Help Them Make Wise Choices. Sometimes it’s not so easy to make a wise choice for yourself. A pair of eyes on the outside may be just what your loved one needs. Suggest alternatives to their addictive behaviors. Make sure not to belittle or judge them but, instead, listen to what they have to say.
- Offer Love and Support. Your loved one needs to know that they’ll have love and support even in vulnerable times. Make sure you’re there for them no matter what. It can be the difference between getting over the addiction, and suffering from it forever.
- Help Them Through Cravings. Your loved one will endure many cravings, especially when they first withdraw from their addictive behavior. You have to be there in order to keep them from the addictive behavior at all costs. Make suggestions for alternative things that they can engage in, instead of the addiction.
- Get Medical Help. You need to be wise enough to realize that sometimes a medical professional is required to intervene. If these situations arise, have the necessary phone numbers handy in order to get help as quickly as possible.
- Form an Intervention. Interventions are great ways of showing your loved one that many people care about him or her and their health. They work because the sufferer realizes that their actions are affecting and being noticed by many people around them. They are then able to stop the denial about the whole situation.
- Attend a Meeting. It’s likely that there are local meetings about the particular addiction that your loved one is suffering from. These meetings are not just for the sufferer, but also for anyone affected by the addiction. You can attend these meeting as well in order to offer support and gain a better understanding about this affliction.
- Understand Withdrawal. It will help you to further educate yourself on what happens when a person hits withdrawal. If they’re suffering from a drug addiction, there may be many unsettling physical symptoms that occur as well as psychological ones. You can expect headaches and vomiting just to name a few.
- Avoid Boredom and Stress. After withdrawal symptoms have settled down, relapses can occur if the sufferer is bored or stressed. While you may not be able to always physically be there for your loved one, you can equip them with ideas on how to combat boredom or severe stress. Give them a list of specific things they can turn to if they feel their addictions calling.
Remember that it’s also important to make time for you. Most people don’t realize the large impact that addictions have on the loved ones of the person suffering. It’s difficult to watch on the sidelines. Just keep in mind that, with your love and support, they’ll be far more likely to overcome addiction and return to normal.
Drug addiction is one of my biggest fears for my kids. They are young now, but I know that can change on a dime. Thanks for these tips.
Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au
Christine I didn’t know you’d been through something like this. Your advice sounds very practical and obviously you’re speaking from experience. I hope your child has come through their addiction and is out of the tunnel now. Supporting someone through addiction can be so draining and soul destroying at times – I hope you’re out in the sunshine now too.
Thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM 🙂
As parents, none of us are immune to having a child who suffers from addiction. These points are extremely helpful to not only parents, but to other family members and friends as well. The more information and education we share offer productive steps in dealing with an extremely challenging situation. Thank you so much for sharing!
Whilst the intentions are very helpful here, unless, as you rightly know, the person affected wants to make those changes, then it is one very frustrating and heart-breaking situation.
I wish you well…it is one very hard road you travel.
Leslie Susan Clingan
What a tough subject and a difficult season this must have been for you and your family. I did not know that 08.31 is Overdose Awareness Day but will remember that in the future. My 92 year-old mom has attempted suicide by overdose twice in the past ten years. Heartbreaking.
Thank you for sharing your experience and your wisdom with us via #blogginggrandmothers link party.