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Finding Peace During Challenging Times

December 7, 2017 By Christine Field

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The older I get, the more important it is for me to be at peace. I NEED to be at peace with myself.

I need peace in several areas.

Finding peace

The older I get, the more important it is for me to be at peace. I NEED to be at peace with myself.

I need peace in several areas.

I need peace with other people. I don’t have the energy for needless conflict. I seize moments to say things that need to be said.

I need peace with my past. I have few regrets and I have set things right where needed for my past actions.

I need peace with my decisions. When faced with a decision, I have to have nearly complete peace about it.

Creating inner peace is a choice we make.

Each day, we’re faced with the choice to create peace or create stress. This can be a challenging task on a good day. On a bad day, it feels impossible.

In all ages of life, constant ups and downs are a given. They’re largely uncontrollable. But you can control your response to them. You can learn to feel peaceful in challenging times.

No matter what your age, you can the peace you need to thrive.

1. Give yourself the advice you would give a friend. It’s difficult to make decisions when you’re emotionally compromised. But the path forward is more obvious to you if someone else is struggling. Imagine that your friend has the same challenge you’re facing. What advice would you give them?

2. Ask yourself what you’re learning from this experience. Are you learning the importance of saving your money? Are you learning not to overextend yourself? Are you learning how to deal with the death of a loved one?

• Every hardship provides a lesson. Determine what you can learn from the experience.

3. Write in a journal. Let your emotions flow out onto paper. There’s something cathartic about writing. It feels like the emotion is leaving your body and taking residence in a new location.

• After unloading your negative emotions, use your journal to make a list of possible solutions to your dilemma. What resources do you have available? Whom can you contact for help or support?

4. What are you afraid of? If you’re feeling out of sorts, you’re afraid of something. What is it? Defining your fear will make it a little less scary. Ask yourself what is the worst thing likely to happen.

5. Practice mindfulness. We make our challenges more challenging by continuously churning through them. You think about your issue while you’re in the shower, driving to work, eating lunch, talking with friends, or watching TV. You never get a break.

• Mindfulness is simply paying attention to your environment and the task at hand. If you’re eating dinner, your mind should be on eating, not thinking about your difficulties. It’s challenging to control your thoughts, but the peace you experience can’t be beat.

6. Tame your mind first. It’s a common mistake. You focus on solving your challenge first. Then you believe you’ll feel better. This is logical, but slow and challenging. Get your mind under control, and then your problem is easier to solve. You’ll also feel better more quickly. Quiet your mental noise first and then search for solutions.

7. Remember all the previous issues that turned out okay. Think about the challenges you’ve faced in the past. You survived and moved on. You’ll get over this, too. Believe that everything will work out for the best.

• What was the worst thing that happened to you during your elementary school years?

• High school?

• Early 20’s?

8. Look for the helpers. Whether there’s a fire, an earthquake, or a homeless family, there’s always someone helping. There are people available to help you, too. Look for the helpers and you’ll find them.

Feeling stressed is a typical response when life takes an unexpected turn. Our responses to hardship are habitual. Habits can be altered or broken. New habits can be created. Avoid the belief that your negative feelings are happening to you like bad weather. You can choose your focus and manage your thoughts.

Find peace first and then solve your challenge.

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